The people who're fighting your corner. The people who're taking you to the big leagues. The people who're are helping you grow. Your squad.
We all need people who support us. We need mentors, cheerleaders, fans. We need people who aren't afraid to tell us what they think.
"Show me the 5 people you spend the most time with, and I'll show you your future" is timeless for a reason.
We've all had moments where we've spoken to people about our dreams, and they've looked straight at us like we've run over their best friend.
"How can YOU do that? Wow, that's bold. I could never do anything like that."
Don't spend time with these people. Be kind to them, love them and offer them your shoulder when you can, but don't spend your time with them. It doesn't matter if they're friends or family, you can't include people like this on your team.
Imagine playing a game of 5-a-side football. You're a superstar and you need to recruit 4 other talented players to help you win the game. Who do you recruit? The people who're helping you setup opportunities to score? Other superstars who will help you rise to their level? Or the naysayers that can't understand why you'd want to play a game of 5-a-side football|?
You already know the answer. You want people with the same goals, the same ambitions, the same drive. They don't have to be identical to you, but they have to have the same trajectory, the same mindset. They've been there and done it before, or they're fighting as hard as you to get to where they need to be.
You don't need to become a monk. You don't need to break up with all your friends. But you do need to change how much time you spend with these people. At least, you need to if you want to become a champion.
We've talked about how precious your time and energy is before, but you only have 24 hours in every day. When you're spending the majority of your time with people who're helping you reach your goals, you will find it simpler and easier to reach them. If you're spending your energy justifying yourself to others that aren't on the same mission, you're not taking steps forward. You're making a negative investment.
Imagine that one of your long-term goals is to buy your mother a house. Do you feel you will reach that goal by spending every day with your mother? Of course not. If that was true, she'd already have a house. You should be spending your time with people the people that will help you achieve that goal.
A Lesson for Future Champions
It's never easy to look at your current circle of influence and trim the fat. It's a process which is tough, and it feels unrewarding to begin with. Especially if some of these people have already helped you to reach smaller goals.
But remember, you never owe anyone anything. If you feel like you do, then the next best thing you can do is work hard and be in a position to thank them in the future.
Again, imagine that you want to buy your mother a house. If your mother could buy herself a house, then she would've done it already. When you want to support someone who's supported you, then you have no choice but to find a better circle of influence that will.
Find yourself a squad that will help you grow, achieve your goals, and buy your mother a house.